2 Reasons You Need To Be Selfish To Protect Yourself From Toxic People

 Living Without Barrier Is A Decision!

Daily we go about doing things for other people, lending money, visiting friends who do not care, working out our ass to pay our bills and also helping some relatives, friends and even some church members who may be lazing about capitalizing on our goodness and kindness.

They judge you for being mean and wicked if you refuse to do their bidding which is not pleasant for you. They refuse to acknowledge the fact that you have your own needs. No matter how much you give, they want more. They indirectly shift their responsibilities to you and still judge you.

Darling, it is time to live for yourself, live for today and let tomorrow take care of itself. Avoid toxic people in your life and live without barriers. For these reasons. You need to become selfish to take a firm decision and protect yourself from these vultures.

Kindness is good but any form of kindness that is toxic should be checked. You cannot love anyone more than yourself even if it's your spouse that is tormenting your life, pause and take a decision, counsel yourself to know that you can't give up your life for anyone after all you're not Jesus. He's the only one that can do that.

2 Reasons You Should Be Selfish:

(1) Chronic/Accumulated Stress Can Kill You

Chronic or Accumulated stress is one of the numerous links to high blood pressure which can lead to cardiac arrest or death even cancer. If you are too busy to take good care of yourself because you're running helter-skelter to take care of other people's stuff and affairs.

When you finally break down and fall sick, the same people will say to your face that you're too hyperactive and that you should learn to take it easy. Maybe you're doing two or three jobs to meet your needs and theirs, they termed it that you're too greedy and that you want all the money for yourself. You will be so shocked at the reactions of your bosom friends.

Anyone who cares about you will not always saddle you with heavy burdens, instead, they hide some of these burdens and appreciate everything you do for them. If you have a friend or any relative that is always targeting your paychecks or that always take advantage of any money or property that you have, be very careful. Such a person is up to no good. Stop being a host for their parasitic worms.

(2) 'Help' Will Never Finish

Let it sink in your mind that you can never satisfy the needs of anybody. The nature of man is to want and to need and to request all the time. If you allow these nasty people to drain you and make you sick, you have only yourself to blame.

You cannot satisfy man's need, just do what you could do and leave the rest to them. They will always find a way to take care of their problems. You'll be shocked at how well they will fare without you. Sometimes ago, I had a friend who likes to present problems all the time. She's either sick or the child is sick or the husband is sick, if they're not sick, she needs help to take care of the children's school fees or she needs help to sustain her business.

I was eager to part with a large chunk of my salary to make her comfortable, she knows the time I collect my pay so she's ever ready. The worst part was when my younger sister got married, rather than supporting me, she still looked for a way to milk me out of the money I'm using for my sister's wedding

Fortunately and unfortunately, there comes a time that I had a serious problem in my life and all I needed was support from anyone that cares. It was a very emotional and traumatic experience for me. I was so shocked that my presumed bosom friend disappeared she not only disappeared she became a talebearer and was eager to announce to everyone that knows me how things have changed for me and how I'm suffering now. I never saw her for a day.

Fast-forward to when she saw that things have changed. She returned and started with a fake apology for not checking on me since those days. She wanted us to start our friendship where we stopped, of course, I accepted the apology and friendship but now I've seen that she could do very well without me. So when she started her 'fine begging' again, I simply ignored her.

Friends and families, be wise, do not allow nasty people to set barriers that will limit you. Live your life without any barrier, enjoy yourself, go to a SPA and get a massage, tone those muscles, take a break, go on vacation with or without your spouse whichever option goes without stress. Do Yoga, do light exercises, stay fit and shed some excess weight. Eat good food. Employ a chef if you can, nourish your body and soul. Pamper your skin and Glow with pride.

Thanks for reading. Watch out for my next post on 'Five Foods That Detoxfies You Naturally and Prolong Your Life. 

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